Unfortunately, we now live in a world where no one takes responsibility anymore. It’s a true detriment to healing, and that’s a shame. We are responsible for ourselves — how we feel, how we act, and how we react. These are all choices we make, whether consciously or unconsciously. The sooner we ‘fess up to this, the better.
True healing ‘begins at home.’ When we put in the work and reflect on what triggers us, we can start to dig deep & take those baby steps toward change. It may be painful, but working through that hurt will walk us forward to a better life.
I’ve had to do this…it isn’t easy, but it gets to a point where NOT doing so is worse than continuing to live each day in misery…for myself & those in my orbit. It isn’t fair to bring loved ones down with you. It’s a struggle each day to pinpoint — “why is this making me so mad?” or “why does this make me want to cry?”
Once we find that source, we can thank it for stopping by & bringing something to our attention. We don’t have to wallow in it, but look it in the eye & choose how to handle it. We can think, “ah yes, this reminds me of when I was 10 and my best friend didn’t want to play with me anymore,” or “this reminds me of how I felt when my brother came home with an A and my parents fell all over him.”
Take the reins, and realize that now you can handle these feelings and begin to walk toward the sun, rather than shrinking back into the shade.
